Now offered online

A new approach to authentically engaging with children and youth

Child consultation skills for family law practitioners, family mediators, parenting coordinators and other practitioners who would like to include the voices of children in their processes

  • Non-evaluative
  • Meetings rather than interviews
  • Two activity-based meetings with children
  • Child meeting skills including six developmentally appropriate activities
  • A structured approach to ordering the messages from children

Meeting with Children: A Child-Centred Approach
Skills for Family Law Professionals

In this 30-hour on-line program, Lorri Yasenik PhD and Jon Graham LLB explore the skills necessary to authentically meet with post-separation children and youth and bring the voice of children to parents.

Starting from a position that all children over 5 years should be given the opportunity to participate in ADR processes that affect them, Lorri and Jon consider the question of how to authentically engage with children and youth, creating space for he messages from children can be brought back to parents in a way that is not only safe, but is also is authentic to the child.

For practitioners: the approach is highly structured and non evaluative
For children/youth: the approach is unstructured, and non-directive, practice based, experiential, expressive and play based.

The question is not WHETHER children should be heard, but rather HOW TO ensure children’s voices are safely and effectively heard as part of an ADR process. A child-centred approach views the child as central to the family system and provides strategies for working with parents to include the child’s concerns. The challenge that practitioners face is how and when to include children AND how to increase the readiness of the parents to hear their children’s concerns.

Prerequisites: This course is designed for  family law professionals, child & family therapists, child protection workers, child consultants, family mediators and parenting coordinators.

Read about Child Consultant/Child Inclusive Specializations

Course Objectives

At the conclusion of this course participants will be able to:

  1. Identify what it means to be child-centred when working with children and
    youth in separated families and in child protection environments
  2. Engage in directive and non-directive ways of meeting with children and
    understand metaphor and projection as ways children tell about their lived
  3. Identify the four levels of child involvement and the cases in which each level is
    most appropriate
  4. Make use of the Child Readiness Scale, the Child and Youth Concerns Scale and
    the Parent Readiness Scale with practical application
  5. Effectively provide feedback to parents and other third parties
  6. Understand the ethical implications of child-centred practice, the challenges of
    employing a child- centred strategy, and the cost of employing traditional non
    child-centred strategies in family mediation.


Program Details

Duration:  30- hour Online COURSE (30 hours is divided into self-paced learning and scheduled tutorials with the instructors). At the end of the 30 hours, participants will receive a Certificate of Attendance.  After the on-line portion of the course, participants may undertake a further 10-hours to complete assessment tasks and earn a 40- hour Certificate of Competence.

Course location: Online Learning on the ICCFL Website

  1. Training is offered at two time zone “locations”:
    1. Eastern Standard Time in Australia AND
    2. Mountain Standard Time for North America
    3. Other Time Zones as Requested

Course Fee: $1,650.00 (CAD/AUD plus GST)

SUPER EARLY BIRD & EARLY BIRD RATES may be available.  Check our training calendar for details.

Course Fee Includes:

  • All tuition
  • Meeting with Children Book and Manual
  • Online Tools and Resources
  • Wheel of Child Development access
  • Review of assessment tasks
  • Issue of Certificates
meeting with chidren

Learning Approach

Everyone who attends the program will receive a Certificate of Attendance stating hours attended and topics covered.

Assessments Tasks

This course is designed to meet the Alberta Family Mediation Society Child Consultant/Child Inclusive Mediator Specialization.  In order to meet this requirement, participants must:

  • Complete all pre-reading and any pre-course assessments
  • Attend the 30- hour on-line training (self-paced learning combined with scheduled tutorials)
  • After the on-line training, successfully complete the 10-hour post-course assessment tasks, including submission of a video assessment

Upon satisfactory completion of the course (including out of class assessments) participants will receive a Certificate of Competence.